From freedom to slavery

Recently, my all inner world was constantly pondering women's situation in their family context, considering only women from post-soviet countries, such as Baltic States, Balkan region and the rest of Eastern Europe. This blog post has spent over three weeks in 'draft' section, because I kept hoping I will arrive in some kind of a conclusion. Nevertheless, this question stays open and doesn't leave my mind. Maybe because I can't find the nerve to keep searching for an answer even though I'm interested in the idea of finding it. What puts me down the most is the absolute downfall of the idea of two young people being desperately in love with each other and willing to do anything for each other. It seems like something that can only happen if the society ceases to remain humane.

So what I've been pondering is women taking up the role of a husband-slave, or, worse, a family-slave. As this post-soviet period was not too long ago, this is still to to be seen in the environment of where I am from. I find it impossible for myself to understand why women choose to not change it and not do anything to make it stop. The majority of middle-aged and old men of this generation seem to be very fond of consuming enormous amounts of alcohol, especially vodka. This leads to alcohol addiction. These men not only disrespect their children, but usually as well humiliate their wives,and spend most of their family's money on alcohol. There are also cases when women take up this role, I'm not a sexist, but most often it IS men. What adds to never ending family quarrels, women having to earn money for the whole family and look after the children and the household, and men showing their children the worst family life example possible, is quite often physical violence, humiliation of women in front of their children, or even sexual violence within the family.

It is, of course, terrible and hard to perceive as something that is still happening in our modern society, but what worries me the most is how women accept it as something 'natural' (it's hard to even use this word in a context like this) and do nothing to change it. It might, of course, be so because of never ending hope that one day it will change without doing anything, or fear of big changes, or maybe even taking children away from their father, but if you think about it.. This is a change for good, and it is also a good thing to do regarding children's wealth. When you think about it, women's fear to escape is the only power supply for this kind of men. They have power over someone, they are given money, they have someone to clean for them, and cook for them. They have a servant. But only if women in this situation treat themselves as servants. But the truth is, everyone's free, regardless of their gender, marital status or number of children. It isn't a choice to make, it isn't even a choice of whether to make this change or not. However, the problem is - wait, there is no problem. And then, after choosing to be repressed instead of being free, women think they have the right to get offended by the usage of term 'women logic'.

The only thing I am sure of after thinking over it and writing it down is that I will be relieved if this won't become a tradition. The idea of free and open-minded society is taking over my generation, and it looks like we will have to be the ones to give it a form and make it a tradition, something to pass on to other generations as a model of general wealth. We will have to be the ones to resist the bad example we have been shown, take up the good bits from the exceptions in it and create something new for ourselves to make our lives better. To cheer you up, I think we will do just fine :)

Tattoos: representing thought or calling attention?

According to the statistics, 36% of US adults between the ages of 18-25 have at least one tattoo. This officially proves how fond young people are of expressing themselves in various ways.  Although most of them see this as a way to represent a unique way of thinking, others just seem to call for some  extra attention. Although there is no official proof of that and never will be, I think that everybody has thoughts about getting a tattoo and I’m not an exception. I have been constantly having thoughts regarding the location, the size, and, most Importantly, the meaning of what I would like to put on my body . However, the visualization of it in my head changes all the time. And that is for sure the only reason why I don’t have a tattoo yet. What keeps me from being sure about it is basically the thought that one morning I will wake up with regret. Images appearing in my head vary from band logos to quotes and those little fancy drawings that always look cute. For me they all have some kind of meaning or cause some kind of an association with what matters to me. But then I start to think about tribal tattoos or tramp stamps and what they mean to people, and what it is that causes them to want to have this kind of painting on their body.
Every person has his own reasons for doing things and even trying to be as tolerant as possible I cannot in any way understand some of them. For me life is a one-time chance to do whatever I feel like doing. A chance that just feels very wrong to miss. However, some people just seem to refuse to realize it and go with the flow.